Q. My six-year-old daughter entered first grade this year. By the end of the first week of school, my daughter started becoming tearful at home, right in the middle of fun activities. When I ask her what is wrong, she says things like, “Who is going to play games with me when you die?” I had no idea where this is coming from. I reassure her that I’m not going anywhere, and she calms down. But the next day, it happens again. It is really upsetting me that she is so consumed with thoughts of me or her father leaving her. What might be going on?
Q. My son started middle school this year, going from a small elementary school where everyone knew everyone else to a larger middle school with children from all over the district. I am really worried about who my son might pick for friends. How can I help him pick good friends? At his elementary school, all the families were close and we lived in the same neighborhood. How can I be sure that he will be safe and not get into any trouble when he goes to the homes of new friends?
Q. I recently had my first baby, a daughter, and I tried breast feed her, but I didn’t like it at all. I was not comfortable, and my baby fussed. I am much more relaxed with bottle-feeding, but I am getting a lot of pressure from my friends and family members. They say I am not doing what is best for my baby. Some of the women in my mothers’ group have made comments to me, as well. Now I don’t even want to socialize. I feel like I must be a bad mother. Please let me know if I am wrong for not breastfeeding.
“The Marvelous Wonderettes,” featuring pop hits of the 1950s and ‘60s, is rocking the stage at the Pines Dinner Theatre, Allentown, through Oct. 21.
A tribute not only to the songs of the era, but also to the high school song-leader squads that were organizing at the time, “Wonderettes” is by far one of the best of the jukebox genre of musicals seen at The Pines.
It’s a delightful romp through the heather in Munopco Music Theatre’s production of “Brigadoon,” the Tony-Award-winning musical about the Scottish village that comes to life only one day every 100 years.
The musical continues at 8 p.m. Sept. 28 and 29, Scottish Rite Cathedral, Allentown. The Sept. 21 opening night performance was seen for this review.
Q. My 10-year-old daughter’s father and I never married, and he has not been very involved in her life. I have been seeing a very nice man, and I think it is getting serious. What is the best way to introduce her to this new relationship, especially when she is used to it being only the two of us?
Panelist Mike Daniels said that it was a great opportunity to have a conversation about needs and relationships: “Ten-year-olds know about dating, and if the mother hasn’t had a conversation about this the daughter is making it up in her own mind.”
Q, I have been married to my husband for nine years now and for the last two years we have not been getting along. Our arguments have escalated into screaming matches with curse words that my five- and seven-year-olds hear. They are starting to act out at home and in school, not listening to teachers or following directions. Do you think our arguing could be affecting them and, if so, what can I do?
Q. We live just under a mile from my daughter’s elementary school, and last year we drove her to school every day. This year she will be in third grade, and she wants to walk to school with some friends. Do you think that in this day and age this is safe?
“For one thing, it depends on who are these friends, and where do they live,” panelist Erin Stalsitz said. “I’d like to say, ‘Yes, it’s safe,’ but it also depends on the location where the children will be walking, and if there are crossing guards. There are lots of factors to consider.”
Q. We are going camping with our 14- and 16-year-olds at a campsite where there will be other teens. I remember what I did at their ages, and I would like to protect my children from some of the bad decisions I made. I want them to have fun, but I am concerned also. What can I do to protect them?
Q. My 10-year-old is continually being disappointed by her father’s canceling plans with her or just not showing up. We never married and he has not had much of a role in her life. I’ve tried talking to her father, but that hasn’t changed anything. How can I explain his behavior without seeming too critical? And what can I do to make her feel better?
In talking with the daughter, the panelists agreed that it‘s important for the mother to say that she doesn’t know why the father acts the way he does. She just needs to be honest, they said.