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Friday, October 18, 2019

Respectfully Yours: Checkout tirade

Saturday, October 12, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

While shopping last week I had an uncomfortable experience at the checkout counter. The line was long. A customer behind me was loudly expressing disapproval. How should I respond to a stranger’s rude and impatient behavior?

Dear Reader,

We all have to wait at times, taking our turns and being courteous. But I suppose someone didn’t get the memo. There’s a chance the impatient stranger had a lot on his or her mind and may have been trying to multitask through their day. The frustration built and you became an unlucky witness.

Respectfully Yours: Tweeting well

Thursday, October 3, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I finally took the plunge and opened a Twitter account. Can you recommend Twitter etiquette for beginners?

Dear Reader,

Getting accustomed to Twitter can be difficult. It can appear to be a baffling and overwhelming social media platform.

As a new Twitter user, you would benefit greatly by learning the decorum of the Twitter community. It’s not as difficult as you may think. It’s a delicate balance of being social and genuine.

Respectfully Yours: formal table setting

Friday, September 27, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I have an important formal dining event coming up and I’m getting flustered thinking about it. I often get overwhelmed when I see a formal place setting. I need a few dining etiquette tips so I do not embarrass myself.

Dear Reader, Dining etiquette standards have relaxed a great deal in recent decades.

However, there still are certain dining guidelines that will be useful when you want to make a good impression.

Respectfully Yours: Lunchtime interview

Saturday, September 14, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I’m nervous about an upcoming lunchtime job interview. Can you please share some tips on how to prepare for a lunch interview?

Dear Reader,

You’ve passed the first phase of the job interview process and, as if that were not stressful enough, enter the lunch interview.

A lunch interview usually means that the interviewer is evaluating your social skills. Not only will you be judged on your qualifications and skills, your table manners will be scrutinized, too.

Respectfully Yours: Bad manners

Friday, September 6, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

Is it ever alright to point out another person’s poor manners?

Dear Reader,

There are several answers to this question.

It depends on whose manners you want to correct. If it is your child, then naturally you should correct their poor manners.

If it is a co-worker or boss, tread carefully.

But if you want to correct a good friend, think twice. Only consider it if you feel it will benefit them, then do it privately and gently.

Generally speaking, pointing out another person’s bad manners is bad manners and simply unwise.

Respectfully Yours: Being rude to friend

Saturday, August 31, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

While I was out with my friend, I said something totally insensitive and rude. I know she’s upset and I feel terrible. What is the best way to apologize and minimize the damage?

Dear Reader,

Occasionally, depending on our mood, we all say or do something that hurts others. Then we come to our senses and realize an apology is in order. It’s best to apologize promptly when you realize you’ve messed up.

Respectfully Yours: The buffet line

Friday, August 23, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I went to an outdoor concert with my mother, three children and husband. There was an after-concert prix-fixe buffet. The children wanted seconds. Should one reuse a plate or get a new plate?

Dear Reader, Even though buffet meals are a fun way to enjoy a casual outing with friends and family, it does not give us carte blanche to behave with no consideration for other diners.

Respectfully Yours: Phone-free wedding

Friday, August 16, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I have attended a number of weddings recently and I am shocked at people’s disregard during the ceremony. So many people were taking pictures with their phones. My wedding is next summer. How does one ask guests to refrain from taking photos during the ceremony?

Dear Reader,

Having an unplugged wedding ceremony and encouraging your guests to put down their devices doesn’t need to be difficult.

As with any request you make of your wedding guests, you simply need to be sensitive and respectful.

Respectfully Yours: Overstaying welcome

Friday, August 9, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

Some weeks ago, my husband and I invited another couple to our home for dinner at 6 p.m. I hadn’t seen them in years and my husband didn’t know them. They got to know each other over a nice dinner. Around 11 p.m., I was starting to get nervous because I had an important meeting in the morning. How does one politely tell a guest that it’s time to leave?

Dear Reader,

One of life’s trickier social situations is when you find yourself sitting across from guests who simply will not leave.