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Wednesday, January 16, 2019

Respectfully Yours: Declining alcohol

Thursday, January 10, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, The one thing that sets me apart from my friends is I do not drink alcohol. A big part of my problem is feeling awkward in social situations. Is there a casual, polite response I could say when someone asks why I’m not drinking?

Dear Reader, Not everyone chooses to include drinking in their lifestyle and it is possible to say no to alcohol in a polite way.

There’s absolutely no reason to feel awkward. Not everyone drinks alcohol.

Respectfully Yours: Thank-you notes

Friday, January 4, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, I know that you’re supposed to send thank-you notes for birthday and other gifts throughout the year. I’d love to hear your thoughts regarding whether you should send thank-you notes for every single gift you receive at Christmastime.

Dear Reader, It’s a grand and gracious act to consider sending each individual a thank-you note for a Christmas gift.

Respectfully Yours: How to eat pizza

Thursday, December 20, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I was engaged in a friendly debate recently on what is the right etiquette for eating pizza. When, if ever, is it OK for someone to eat pizza with a fork and knife? I say eating pizza with your hands is totally acceptable. Am I right?

Dear Reader, This answer depends entirely on your location and who you are eating with. Many foods are meant to be eaten with your hands.

Wraps with fillings may fall out, tacos, crispy bacon, and corn on the cob should be eaten with your hands.

Respectfully Yours: Say the right thing

Friday, December 14, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I recently met up with a friend I haven’t seen in months. We were catching up and she mentioned that she just lost her job. I was at a loss for the right thing to say and said nothing at all. What do you say when someone shares an unhappy life event?

Dear Reader,

Finding the right words when someone is struggling is not easy. We find that words seem trivial and fail us.

This is especially true when we are caught off-guard. We immediately find ourselves searching for the right thing to say.

Respectfully Yours: The gift of re-gifter

Friday, December 7, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, I’m not trying to take the easy way out, but I have received several gifts over the years that I have no intention of using. I am considering re-gifting them this year. When I ask around, I get mixed answers about this. What’s your opinion on re-gifting?

Dear Reader, At one time it was considered poor taste to re-gift. Today, however, it has become widely acceptable.

There’s nothing wrong with thoughtfully passing along an item that you yourself won’t use to someone who will appreciate it.

Respectfully Yours: holiday-card etiquette

Friday, November 30, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, My mother has always handled sending out the holiday cards. Now that I’ve moved away from home, I’m sending cards for the first time. What is the basic etiquette on sending out holiday cards? And, if someone I overlooked sends me a card, do I need to send one back?

Dear Reader, The ins and outs of holiday-card etiquette is one of those little things in life that can seem overwhelming.

Respectfully Yours: Small talk

Wednesday, November 21, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, A couple of weeks ago I attended a baby shower for a friend. I did not know most of the people there. I found myself watching everyone and not talking. I normally am not at a loss for words with my friends and family, but in this situation I was totally out of my comfort zone. I did not want to come across as disinterested, but I felt awkward. Do you have any suggestions about how to engage in small talk?

Respectully Yours: Doors of kindness

Friday, November 9, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

Why do some people not say, “Excuse me.” or “I beg your pardon?” When I am standing in line in a supermarket or drugstore, someone will rush ahead of me to ask the clerk a question. They never say, “Excuse me.” When I go to the bank or restaurant, some people never hold the door for other folks. What is going on with this world?

Dear Reader, Phrases go in and out of style and very few people say, “Excuse me” anymore. It appears many have lost a general sense of respect toward each other and consideration is becoming extinct.

Respectfully Yours: Bus passenger’s cold

Thursday, November 1, 2018 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, I recently took a bus trip to New York City. The bus was packed and I was seated before the long line of passengers piled onto the bus. The seat next to me was available and a woman sat down next to me. As soon as the bus pulled out, I noticed she had a cough and head cold. I knew I was in for an unpleasant bus ride. I worried that I would catch her cold. Why do people travel when they are visibly sick? What do you recommend I do if this happens again?

Dear Reader,